XOXO, More O, Less X

As I promised on Twitter, I will now write in honor of Asexual Awareness Week. I'm not entirely sure, it may have officially ended yesterday, it depends on if it is a 7 day week or a 5 day week. In any case, I shall now write about it.

I have really thought long and hard about what I want to tell you lovely blog readers, what the world needs to hear. This is the best I could come up with. I have noticed that people always say "us" and "we", whether it be "us straight people" or "we as the asexual community" or any other collective group of whatever is your personal pleasure. I am not sure that I completely agree with this. Yes, there are groups of people, but to say that everyone in that group does one thing or feels one way isn't the case. Every individual is different. Some asexuals enjoy being in a relationship, some just enjoy friendships. Some people think that hugs are nice, other people don't. Some people have different boundaries on what type of relationship does what, such as, is it alright for friends to hold hands. There is one base common belief that binds all of a group of people, but the finer details, not everyone is going to agree on. Personally, I think that I'm not really into the whole relationship thing. I used to desire it some, though thinking back, when I always thought of growing up and what my future would be like, there never was a guy or girl involved, I didn't place much importance on getting married. Now, it just doesn't really have any appeal to me. Maybe something in my future will change that, I'm not against it exactly, I just don't see it as very important, as long as I have my friends and family, more friends than anything I suppose, I seem to be slowly losing parts of my family, then life will be amazing. On the topic of friends, I think that hugs are very important, and I see nothing wrong with holding hands, I don't view it any differently than if I were to hold hands with my brother or parents. In the eyes of the world we live in, it is mostly likely and unfortunately not seen like that, and therefore I don't hold hands with my friends as it is easier to not cause confusion, and I do not know how my friends feel about the issue.

The title of this post I quite like. It used to bother me, not knowing what was hugs and what was kisses. Now, after searching the Internet to determine that most people say that x is kisses and o is hugs, I have found a way to remember which one is what. Kisses are, for me, not really wanted, like kiss on the cheek is fine, but other than that is gross, yet strangely fascinating, but anyways, therefore they are x, unwanted. Hugs are nice and warm and round and I very much enjoy them and o is just a nice round and warm and friendly letter. This may be how all asexuals feel, but as I said early, everyone is a little different, therefore everyone should make decisions for themselves, not feel as if they have to do certain things to fit in a group.

I think that this is a pretty nice post to honor such a special week. I tried to wear black, as seem to be an asexual color, especially when viewing the graduated triangle that is our "symbol", and succeeding in wearing mostly black, but no one commented or seemed to notice. I suppose that could be either bad or good, or neither.
PrincessC